Do you know someone who is constantly testing you?
Like, they’ll ask you a question – a question that has no right answer – but that they have predetermined judgment on?
Like, say, they ask you what your favorite song is. And their favorite song is Scorpion’s “Rock You Like a Hurricane” and they have decided that anyone whose favorite song is not “Rock You Like a Hurricane” is an idiot.
And of course, your favorite song is not “Rock You Like a Hurricane”. (Because if everyone wanted to listen to Scorpion, this ensuing Hairmania would have finished off that freaking ozone layer.)
So you answer. And it doesn’t really matter what you answer, so long as it’s not the right answer. They’ve been quietly waiting to judge you ever since they’ve asked the question.
And, most of the time, they won’t even tell you what your answer means to them; they don’t even tell you the right answer unless you drag it out of them. They just make a non-committal noise or nod . . . and sometimes you don’t even realize that you’ve just failed the test. You may not even know that there WAS a test.
But sometimes you do know. And sometimes, waiting for judgment to spring silently forth is worse than being called an idiot to your face.
Sometimes, I’m afraid, people are exhausting.